So, I'm going to the new Bell Shakespeare version of 'Hamlet' with Danny on Friday. Is it a date? Hard question. Apart from the fact that I don't know whether he's gay or in a relationship, I'm not sure whether to call this an attempt to find out more about him in order to fuel my 'romantic inclinations' (in which case this is a date) or a mutual coincidence of wants (in which case it isn't... it turns out to be a type of barter, according to my commerce notes).
My Mac OSX widget (Oxford American Dictionary) says a date is "a social or romantic appointment or engagement". It's definitely a social engagement so I guess it is a date. However, I would argue (and I am like that, aren't I?) that a date is about intent - if both parties intend for the social engagement to be a potential precursor to further involvement, then it's a date. If one or more parties believes it is nothing more than a social engagement leading nowhere in particular, then it is not a date.
The reasons I am going to 'Hamlet' with Danny on Friday are:
1) I want to see this version of 'Hamlet';
2) I wouldn't have looked into this production had he not been so enthusiastic about it, so he was a direct influence in my desire to see it;
3) I want to meet him (not for any romantic reasons, just plain vanilla curiosity actually);
4) I want to talk to somebody about it after I see it.
But I've been on fire preventing the inevitable teasing this has caused from both Sir and Nukte, an acquaintance at work. I've pre-teased myself and I find that they have less to tease me about other than defining and redefining the word 'date' to see if that gets a reaction.
Oh yes, and enter the man I love - Rob - who, as coincidence would have it, is also having his wisdom teeth removed in a couple of weeks, hence we've been talking about our impending ice cream diet and blissful days of crap movies. It's a co-experience you can't buy in a 'Hamlet' ticket.
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Wikipedia sez:
"Dating is any social activity performed as a pair or even a group with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of agreeing on a time and "date" when a pair can meet and engage in some social activity."
It seems that Wikipedia thinks that you are having a date :). Although we can't be sure what he thinks. But I think that you can be on a date, even if the other person thinks that you are not having a date. Well, at least if we stick to the Wikipedia-definition.
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